Tulpa.info - Having a second tulpa? Should I?

If you give them each a fair amount of attention and your tulpa isn't prone to jealousy, he won't get jealous "Who am i letting enter" probably refers to let-ins (or walk-ins) which are tulpas that appear partially formed and you need to decide if you want to accept them or not. If your existing tulpa and future tulpa are reasonable people, they should get along well. I don't think it would be a problem But think about this: why do you want to create another tulpa?

Kei Wendt

If you give them each a fair amount of attention and your tulpa isn't prone to jealousy, he won't get jealous "Who am i letting enter" probably refers to let-ins (or walk-ins) which are tulpas that appear partially formed and you need to decide if you want to accept them or not. If your existing tulpa and future tulpa are reasonable people, they should get along well. I don't think it would be a problem But think about this: why do you want to create another tulpa?

I would want to do so bescuase I've been having in my mind a lot these few months the idea, it's like it just suddenly entered, I don't know how to explain it exactly, but, like the concept, sometimes even a few voicelines

6:01 PM

I'm not sure if I'm explaining myself correctly

No i get that That's called a let-in (at least in this server it is — you'll hear it described as a 'walk-in' elsewhere). If you choose to create this idea of a tulpa, it might go faster than your previous tulpa, because it's already partially formed. You'll probably also find that even if you come up with a new personality for them, they'll be set in a certain personality that you didn't think of. I've had one let-in, and it went really well. It's up to you if you want to let them in though — don't feel pressured just because it feels like it partially exists. It's your choice.

I've talk to my tulpa and he said "??? : As long as you're fine then it'll be alright for me, I know you care about me and I would never feel like you don't, even if you have another tulpa". I've also been thinking in the consequences of it, as far as I know, the new "let in" has a really loud and joyful personality, it seems he enjoys to tease sometimes, so I'm afraid it might influence my way of thinking. My current tulpa is more of a serious but kind, honest, caring and a little strict type of person

I think it would be okay They'd probably get along since they're complimentary personalities

i've been with a joyful and tease-y but caring and understanding tup for a month soon and its been only positive

6:11 PM

hard to say how it would go for you though, and how the new one is really like

6:12 PM

but its important to think how things will play out in the long term ofc

6:14 PM

less is more and things get boring/settle down over time anyways but you probably know that already

The thing here is that I'm the kind of person who is always excited for everything, I'm always divagating in fantasy and stuff like that, that's why my tulpa complements me, he has elements that we share, but it's orgsnized and has a lot more of emotional intelligence than I do, as for the let-in, it seems that it would be kind of like I am, with some differences as being more playful or that he is objective of what he sees, he doesn't overthink (trait that shares with my tulpa)

As long as you feel like you'd get along i'd say it's fine

its probably hard for anyone else to judge how you would react to someone else who is kinda hyper

What does hyper mean?

i feel like you two are me and my tup but the other way around lol

OkAy

What does hyper mean?

Energetic

i mean if the joyful walk in would enable you too much, but i dont know if you have issues with that

I'm the kind of person who is always doing stuff and I get excited easely

6:19 PM

Another difference with the new tulpa and I is that he seems to be the person who doesn't take what others say at all

that doesnt sound super good for me, it could often be 2 against 1

I can foresee that probably my tulpa might be sometimes arguing or scolding the let in, as he is very organized and responsible, like, he does it with me, so it could be a little complicated for him

yeah and since walk ins arent something you've "designed" and thought about in advance, you cant really know how things would play out and what other quirks there are, although all tulpas have some unforeseen quirks (edited)

Yeah, that's true, originally my tulpa was planned to be a little arrogant, but it turned out that he is really humble

6:26 PM

So I don't know what to expect

6:26 PM

I could create a tulpa based on that idea, well, not create but plan at least how he would be

if i were to expand a system at any point i'd do it pretty carefully, but thats how i approach everything

6:28 PM

and also think if i would even expand it in the first place, and why

Hmm that's a good question, I could expand it because they seem nice

6:29 PM

Is that a good idea?

expansion also means less time for everyone, also how does it affect your life in regards to what you're currently aiming at

6:31 PM

like what you two are trying to achieve in life etc

I really like spending time with my current tulpa, I really enjoy his company

6:32 PM

Well, my original tulpa purpose is to take care of me, he wants me to be okay

imo someone seeming nice isnt enough of a reason to let them stay

But, that's how my original tulpa is, like, he wants things to be as organized as it could be

6:34 PM

As, the let in, I'm not sure what he would want to, but I can forsee they will be opposites

maybe think about it this way, what positive and constructive does the new one bring to all of you in your lives

Hmmm, it could be perhaps not taking everything so serious, or not getting angry easily and maybe playing with my cousins? But my actual tulpa does help me to not get angry or over react, or to not over think

there are also the options to change how you two think about things too

Can you explain?

i mean, personal growth and learning to think from new perspectives, and other boring but in the long term fulfilling stuff

6:43 PM

maybe someone else could give their 2 cents here too, but you're really the only one who knows what would work though, but personally i dont think adding headmates should be done on a whim

Hmmm, I feel like not letting the let-in stay feels a little bit weird for me, it feels like someone nocking at your door but never responding

someone visiting your house doesnt mean they should start living with you, knocking is gonna happen for some more than others, and not letting them in is just something some people have to deal with

OkAy

Hmmm, I feel like not letting the let-in stay feels a little bit weird for me, it feels like someone nocking at your door but never responding

well in this case it's your brain, so it's fully your choice if your gut is telling you to let them in though you can but i would take it into very careful consideration whether or not you'd want to live with such a person full time

Hmm... I guess I'll try to develop the idea or write it in paper so I could have like a "map * of how he could be

sounds good

Perhaps later I'll upload it to have someone's opinion

6:49 PM

Thank you all for the advice

i'd think about system expansion for a couple of months minimum, but if you dont, hope it works out (edited)

6:50 PM

since it can be a life long commitment

Sure, I'm kind of a impatient type of person, but my tulpa have helped me with that, so that's why I'm thinking more about it

6:52 PM

How does it feels to be with more than one?

no clue lol, its just 2 in our head

6:52 PM

kei knows better about that

OkAy

How does it feels to be with more than one?

for me it's not a huge inconvenice my tulpas appear at different triggers so it's not like they're in my face all the time they don't need a lot of fronting time, so i just let them front once every few days and they're satisfied with that i like them both a lot, and care about them both we all get along too if we ever get into a disagreement (which is rare, but it does happen), i take the time to go to my room so it's quieter and i can hear them clearer and talk with them in my head. we always come up with a solution.

What happens if I'm with my tulpas a lot of time? Would that be bad if I have more than one?

Lucilyn: We've been a system of 4 tulpas + host for 8 years now and it's fine, we all care about each other a lot (edited)

7:04 PM

Especially if you're willing to dedicate the time to both of them, making a second tulpa is fine

7:04 PM

Work with your first tulpa on creating them

7:05 PM

Only time we usually don't recommend making a second+ tulpa is if you think you struggle to spend enough time with them, since every +1 tulpa divides the amount of time you can afford them

Can I spend time with both tulpas? Like, perhaps eating ice cream and being with them

7:06 PM

It really sounds nice to work with my tulpa for the another one, that may be it!

OkAy

Can I spend time with both tulpas? Like, perhaps eating ice cream and being with them

yep, you can spend time with both of them at once

It would be kind of difficult having a second one now that I think of it, for example, I talk to my tulpa before sleep, so I guess I won't have the opportunity to do so if have another one

7:17 PM

What makes me doubt is that it has its good sides and it's bad sides

Lucilyn: yeah we take turns a lot (edited)

OkAy

It would be kind of difficult having a second one now that I think of it, for example, I talk to my tulpa before sleep, so I guess I won't have the opportunity to do so if have another one

you could always take turns, or talk to both of them before you sleep

Lucilyn: though, talking to multiple systemmates at once is pretty much the same as talking to multiple people at the dinner table (edited)

7:19 PM

still easier than multiple completely separate convos

Kei Wendt

you could always take turns, or talk to both of them before you sleep

It sounds difficult to take turns, what if I like them both?

not as in taking turns once a month or something lol, as often as you want/can

OkAy

It sounds difficult to take turns, what if I like them both?

that's ok! you can take turns every day then they each get equal time

Can it happen that I like spending more time with my first tulpa? Could that damage the new one?

Lucilyn: Weird question, this stuff isn't actually that complicated (edited)

8:09 PM

The amount of time you spend with any given tulpa is... like spending just that much time with a tulpa

8:10 PM

10 minutes talking to a tulpa a day is the same for them whether they're the only tulpa or you also have 10 others

8:10 PM

it's just about whether the divided time is still enough for you guys

8:10 PM

which is individual preference

I made some concepts for the new tulpa/let in

5:45 PM

I'm not really good at those stuffs but I guess y'all can get the idea of his personality

Lucilyn: If you want a personal thread for writing stuff about your tulpas/progress, the Progress Reports board on the forum is for exactly that! https://community.tulpa.info/forum/12-progress-reports/ (edited)

I didn't know about that, thank you

Kei Wendt

If you give them each a fair amount of attention and your tulpa isn't prone to jealousy, he won't get jealous "Who am i letting enter" probably refers to let-ins (or walk-ins) which are tulpas that appear partially formed and you need to decide if you want to accept them or not. If your existing tulpa and future tulpa are reasonable people, they should get along well. I don't think it would be a problem But think about this: why do you want to create another tulpa?

oh thats what they are! ive had a number of "walk/let-ins"